No matter how many times it's happened before, every break up hurts like the way it did the first time. Even though you know that breaking up with him was the right thing to do, you can't help but still care for him deeply, you still miss him and seeing a photograph of the two of you on Facebook is painful as hell. If it ended badly, then you're probably feeling hurt, raw and cheated. Everybody has their own ways of dealing with a break up and if this was one of those whirlwind romances, feel free to go ahead and have another one. But if this was a long-term relationship, where your lives were considerably intertwined, you better take things slow. Better take time to rediscover your identity again, before starting to date again. Here are a few handy tips to help you do it.
1. Stop beating yourself up over all the things you wish you'd done differently. Part of the healing process is letting go in order to move forward.
2. Don't feel like you need to rush through the healing stage in order to quickly feel better. Be patient and take your time. Allow yourself some grief and acknowledge your heartbreak without obsessing over the past.
3. Write out everything you're feeling. It allows you to understand yourself better.
4. You probably just want to lie on the sofa endlessly in front of the TV, with an unlimited supply of junk food. Instead get back to your social life. Call up your friends and make plans to meet. Read more on idiva.